Most of us have read or studied something about dream analysis. But if the last time you thought about dreams was when you took undergraduate psychology in the 60s and studied Jung and Freud, it is likely time to take another peak. Consider looking at www.dreamdictionary.org and get informed again as I am. Actually I hadn’t thought about analyzing my dreams in a quite a long time. Two things happened that got me “re-focused”.
First, a sermon at Church a number of weeks ago suggested a fresh look at our dreams as a way of working on oneself to understand more of who one is, and how one can improve or grow in faith and action given the insights of dreams. Referring to the Bible’s obvious use of dreams as a means of providing motivation for action, the idea of paying a bit more attention to my dreams seemed like a good idea for my own faith journey. Since this year for the first time I am writing NOTHING about my weight on my plans for 2016, dream analysis seemed like a good idea to fill in that open space.
Second, I have decided to have a “tune up”. For those of you who have never gone to or considered going to therapy – a “tune up” is a return to the well of wisdom otherwise known as Dr. Judy in my case, or Dr. Whoever in yours. I tend to go back for tune ups every 5 years or when I think I need support for staying the course of continuous learning, growth and sanity as I age. It hasn’t failed me yet. Most of us by our fabulous 60s have figured out our recurring weaknesses but like having another fresh reminder to “let it go”. And also, we hopefully know our greatest strengths – the good stuff that makes us magical, unique and wonderful. We often need a reminder of that too as external events get us mired in complex situations, health challenges, or just off track as life often can – especially when one is older.
Keeping track of my dreams, I started quickly after the Church sermon struck me as good fodder (or content?) for my therapy tune up. My goal was and still is to discover what am I still doing, or in the case of dreams, still thinking/emoting/stressing about that I should have long ago just put to rest or resolved. While tempted to share more graphically I will not. Another person’s dreams are about as interesting as watching your best friend get a pedicure. Somethings, not nearly the number younger women think, really honestly do need to be about you alone. Dream analysis is on that list.
My point is, try it. I was skeptical but between writing down dreams (and the website mentioned above will give you guidance on remembering if you don’t already remember your dreams), re-reading them and just reflecting on some rather obvious themes that recur, I am finding myself getting a fresh and real picture of what I need to work on to feel and be better as 2016 unfolds.
Like everything else, we don’t have time for 20 years of therapy anymore than we have 20 years to date someone or stay married to someone we don’t love, pretend to go on a diet – or, do dream analysis and therapy. With experience comes insight and perspective. And, of course discipline and appropriate focus on real issues and shooing away the rest.
A few dreams of drowning, running away or just stewing in your own juice with characters from recent movies or your own life makes it clear that dream analysis isn’t rocket science anymore than most things are. With our years of dreaming, our years of thinking about our faults, problems, issues, family, ex loves, current loves, private sorrows and the knowledge about what we have to change, most of us can relatively quickly diagnose our dreams and use that information, with or without professional guidance, to do the necessary work we need to do on ourselves.
If there is anything that fabulousover60 women have learned it is this. Be brutally honest with yourself, figure out the issue/problem, and take personal responsibility to fix it. It never was easy and it isn’t easy now. But at least at this point, we aren’t thinking there is “an answer” out there that doesn’t involve hard work on our own part. Most of us tried that approach – and have given it up for good now: at least that is what we tell ourselves – and each other. Sweet dreams!