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Being Selfish and Staying Positive

Sad to say, but I’m usually not the “glass half-full” person in the room. I overanalyze things, considering what could go wrong rather than what could go right.

Over the past few months, my glass-half-empty feeling has been stronger than usual. I think it’s because of the incessant barrage of negativity about our country and the world that is becoming harder and harder to avoid.

Given my family history and current health, I am figuring that I’ll probably live into my 90’s – another two decades. I’d like those years to be as happy as possible.

So, here are a few things I’ve been doing recently:

I’m not watching TV network news

  • Today’s broadcasts are much more “in your face” and intense than in the old days. By the time 28 minutes go by and I watch the last two minute “Here’s a happy story” story, I feel the need for a strong alcoholic beverage.
  • That’s not to say that I don’t want to know what’s going on in the world. I just don’t need to be bombarded with heavy drama every night. Reading selected magazine or newspaper articles, or watching an occasional video on my iPad works just fine for me.  I stay informed without feeling the need to hit the booze.

I have seriously reduced my time on social media

  • This past week, I decided to block all national news media postings on Facebook.
  • I also used the unfollow option with people who primarily post political opinions or news stories they have decided are important for everyone to read. Most of the posts are negative on one side or the other … we won, you lost, you’re stupid, no you’re stupid, he’s stupid, she’s stupid and on and on.  I realized that I can still be “friends” with them and visit their tirades anytime I want and they won’t even know I’m not following them. A win-win!
  • I signed up with Facebook so that I could scroll through my news feed to see photos of my step-     kids and grandkids, to find out what my friends and family members are doing on this year’s vacation, and to post pictures of my beautiful dogs and/or my handsome husband being adorable.
  • My “news feed” is much smaller now, and I’m a lot happier.

I’m spending time with positive, happy people who don’t need to solve the problems of the world over dinner.

  • Enough said.

It’s not that I don’t care about what’s happening in the country or the world or that I don’t have strong opinions. In fact, I can get pretty riled up about things.

And, I’m really happy that there are people who are passionate enough to speak out on both sides of political issues, to take up causes, to hold others accountable and to work to make a difference.

Maybe it’s selfish not to get more involved. But, I am, after all, one of the “Me Generation” Baby Boomers.

So, my current mantra is …..

Care to join me?

Cathy Green

Movie Musts

Bill and I are movie nuts. We also GO to the movies weekly, sometimes twice in a week (that is when you know you are only partially employed). We always seem to be there with 5000 younger people seeing the latest “adventure” (lots of action and technology and volume through the roof) film. We now skip those.

I have two very strong recommendations for every FabulousOver60 reader. Both touched me and educated me in useful ways for our lives right now. Likely more than a few of you have seen one or both — but trust me if you haven’t, both will be favorites and are mature and adult.

Ida:

This is a fantastic history lesson and identity story set in 1962 Poland. It focuses on a young woman who was raised in a convent but learns through her aunt that she is Jewish. “The scene” for me as a coach/fabulous woman wanting to impart shreds of wisdom is when she and someone she has met while “on leave” from the convent (don’t want to play the part of spoiler) start discussing future life options. She keeps asking the question “and then what?” To me this is the coaching line of all time to help younger people think through their options and begin to unravel the importance of choice. Looking back, this may have been a line a loving aunt or friend shared with me as I embarked on my own life. This is a sad movie — but I loved and predicted the ending – Bill didn’t. It’s interesting who does and does not predict a film’s ending. Sharpen your own choice-making at this stage of your life and learn how to help others make their own best choices with this pitch perfect film.

Here is a movie review to really persuade you to see it — but read it after you see the movie — to me it spoils it some.

Chef:

Everything I ever needed to learn about social media was in this modern, heartfelt film that has nothing to do with teaching anyone about social media. But it is truly perfect for those of us still wondering how the whole ‘social media thing’ really works. Meanwhile as you are learning you will be hugely entertained by Dustin Hoffman as an LA restaurateur, Jon Favreau as a dad who becomes a truly sensational father while solving his own career issues, Robert Downey Jr. as a rich ex, and the mom (Sophia Vergara) who handles divorce with grace. The food is so mouthwatering – and plays a starring role. If cooking (or eating) is your thing you will love the kitchen action.

What is the big lesson for me/us? When people in our generation did something really stupid in our lives (hey, pick your really stupid thing) it hung over them forever. We always prayed no one would know – or everyone would forget. We thank God they didn’t have social media then. But the twist is, all that openness existing with the “help” of social media actually works to support and allow moving forward and moving on. Keeping secrets, the skill of our age group, had some great points – but it did not necessarily teach us to let go and move on. LOVED that social media lesson. Think you will love the film.

A review to read – again, maybe after seeing the movie.

The summer has started. Other than having to wear a swimsuit it is going to be the best summer ever – I know you understand.

 

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