No, this is not going to be about the election. If you are one of the 3 people who are still frequently following the news on the political front, God bless you, but don’t contact me. I, like most, have temporarily shaken off “the real state of affairs” and put it on a shelf to deal with later… much later.
What I am talking about is how, even in these waning days of 2016, things are happening that seem uniquely odd, sad, strange and surprising. That which makes us wonder again and again: what’s going on with this crazy year? Here’s a few situations from my own last week.
I hadn’t paid a bill on time and got a late charge and note from my account – Saks Fifth Avenue of all cards!! Ah some things do NOT change. In any case, I missed the payment in all the Christmas crazies but decided on December 26th to give them a call and start arranging to have money just taken out automatically. A warm voice greeted me.
“Hi, I’m Helen from (popular credit card company), how can I help you?”
Helen needed my birthday to proceed and when I gave it to her (1/20/50 in case you may have forgotten), she got even warmer and said, “you know I have a January birthday too and turning 62 – and just think it is time for makeover/do-over of my looks”. 15 minutes later we were still talking about makeup for women in their fabulous 60s and I hadn’t even paid my bill. Then we got “down to business” and she just told me she was waving my late fee and interest charges – and all I had to pay was $x – it was done quickly. We wished each other with happy New Year and hung up cordially. I was wondering if an angel had sent this woman to me or I was talking to one of the few service people who makes your heart sing. What was THAT about?
Guess it proves that any woman can connect with another woman other even when they are total strangers. Isn’t that fabulous and surprising? Right now, if Cathy Green, my Fabulous blog partner is reading this she is shaking her head and saying: “that isn’t surprising at all for you Patty – for anyone else, yes, a total shock”.
Someone I know is going through a divorce. Yes, getting divorced over Christmas is only slightly less disturbing than the absolutely biggest nightmare you can ever imagine. Why anyone would divorce during the holidays is astonishing to me. Nothing is going right. The players are acting, shall we say, “strangely” and the fallout is breaking hearts and confusing even the most even-tempered and spiritual of the inner circle. Do people have to been so cruel to each other NOW – as one of the toughest years ever is ending? It is breaking my heart that I can’t help the situation.
A friend I met through church is retiring and also having a big birthday. I thought that I could be so helpful to her now – after all, I am a life coach (does the phrase ‘who cares’ come to mind?). Point being I thought “she needed me”. We had a great lunch – she was everything fun, mature, thoughtful, loving, sophisticated in her thinking and offering some solid advice to ME about handling a few things. So much for me being needed – my lunch FOR my friend was a surprise – it was a lunch WITH one fabulous woman who I obviously needed to listen to. Not that I didn’t already know that. But still.
And then there was a long overdue call with a friend from back east, who unfortunately had a bad fall down some hard to see steps early in December and was recovering. A surprising event for anyone; but the accident itself seemed sadly typical of 2016. But here is the really surprising thing: my friend’s accident seemed to not just be a royally painful episode in her life, but had a transformative positive effect on her personally. It opened her up to learning and healing in a way that was going to definitely redefine 2017 for her. Yikes – someone actually DOES turn lemons into lemonade.
The last days of 2016 aren’t exactly comforting. Could there be more of living life in a salad spinner coming up in 2017? I am not sure what’s ahead, and I do want to wish everyone love, peace and hope in the New Year. It seems to me that maybe our old standbys like loving ourselves, giving ourselves a break, being there for others and not expecting to be able to solve their issues, and to just trying to lighten up our hearts to hear and experience the unexpected with grace is going to be the very best we can do. But you know my dear fabulous women, this list is more than enough.
We aren’t the center of the world anymore – let’s take one of the REAL benefits of aging: letting the next generation figure out how to make things work as we enter 2017. While we don’t want to just have our lives be waiting for a Publisher’s Clearing House contest to make it all better, a little bit of the old song “what will be will be” is in order.
Don’t let that scare you like it scared our parents. Just try your best to have a happy new year! Trust me, 2017 is going to be fabulous. That would be a wonderful and much-welcomed surprise we really need.